Real Tikkun vs. Mere Psychological Change

You can be busy all day long with creating yourself a perfect character mask. Religion normally follows this kind of philosophy. When you're angry, it says, you must become more calm. When you hate, you must replace this kind of feeling with love. Religion tells you to put on a fake smile. But under the surface of your perfect created mask, your urges, perversions, and hateful feelings still burn. Or why do you think people of the seemingly most perfect religious families suddenly murdered their relatives in the most cruel manner? This happens when you are busy your entire life long with participating in a mere spectacle.

Real change comes from the spirit that is to be poured out in the upper worlds. Often we call this influx of energy 'Mochin,' which in practice stands simply for expanded consciousness. Only through the alignment with this energy can real change in our soul happen. A Kabbalist is not someone who is necessarily a nice person. A Kabbalist, if necessary, will cast out the moneychangers from the temple with the whip. And also, this happens only out of love. A Kabbalist, who stands in the attainment of higher worlds, has much greater urges and desires than everyone else. His dark side, so to say, is incomparably greater than the one of the rest of the world. But it is about how we learn to handle this darkness and those needs, not about suppressing them. We can use a knife for killing or for healing. How we decide to use it depends on our own intention. 

Real transformation has happened when a child suddenly puts away his toys, not because someone is forbidding him to use them, but when he simply has reached a level of maturity that they have become meaningless. And exactly so it is with our desires. No conflict is necessary, no battle. Transformation happens through awareness, not through suppression or fighting. When you have the urge to become angry, then become angry, but fully conscious, and only then will you see your anger becomes meaningless. When you want to chatter about others, start chattering, but when you're fully aware of yourself, there may come up an inner voice that tells you, "Are the mistakes I see in others not also my own?" This is transformation. When you're all day long only busy with fighting yourself, you will supplant all your feelings into the realm of the subconscious, and it will be only a matter of time until they break out.

What mere moral teachings are telling you is to say 'I'm a loving person' if you're hateful. When you're an introvert, they will tell you, you must become an extrovert. But this is the wrong way. Because you will create an image of yourself, which is not your very authentic being. Learn to use your weaknesses instead of fighting them. Your weaknesses are your biggest strengths if you learn how to use them. Real strength lies in authenticity, not an artificial, imposed change. Be angry when you're angry, but be angry with full awareness, and your anger will transform into something much more beautiful than the achievement of a mere hollow character mask.